For ease of understanding this post:
M – is my 6yo daughter
N – is my daughter turning 2yo
C – is my 7yo niece
When my girls visit the house of their cousin C, the latter doesn’t want to let N into her room. I completely understand because N wreaks havoc whenever she enters the neat room and C is really a mini-OC like her dad.
On these instances, my M tries to suck up to her older cousin and reinforces the No Entry rule by shouting, “Don’t come in the room N!! Nooooooooo!”
C has every right not to let anyone in her room but for M to be the little choo-choo that she is and rub it in for N was heartbreaking. (Of course, I think I was more affected by M’s actions to N. N really didn’t seem to care.)
So, I had a little heart to heart talk with M.
ME: M, N is your sister. You can’t be the one to keep her out of the room. It’s important for you to be on her side. And it’s even more important when you grow older and you and N go to school together. You can’t let anyone hurt N. Not anyone.
M: (Long Pause) So only I can be mean to her?
Are all first-borns like this?